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No Rambling=No Regrets: Talk About Your Work Like a Pro

11/18/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

It's Interview Time! Make It Count!

No doubt, you've been applying for a lot of jobs--and now a company wants to talk to you! Since you're over the first hurdle, it’s time to get ready to make a good impression. Your goal is to help your interviewers see how amazing you are! To do that, you need to figure out how to shape and share your story. Let's look at what you're likely in for and how to set yourself up for success.

About Behavioral Interviewing Questions

During the job interview process, hiring managers and recruiters often ask behavioral interview questions since past actions often predict future behavior. Old-school interview questions rely on asking how you would handle a hypothetical situation (which, of course, would be perfectly).
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Conversely, behavioral interview questions require you to share a story of what you actually did in a similar situation. The stories you share come from your previous work experience and demonstrate how you think, solve problems, measure success, and overcome obstacles. 

Anticipating Behavioral Interview Questions

Traditional interview questions usually start with, "How would you?" while behavioral interview questions often begin with, "Tell me about a time." 

Here are a few examples of old-school questions and behavioral alternatives:​
Traditional Interview Questions:​
  • How would you deal with a customer complaint? What would you do to make it right?  
  • How would you manage a project team and select a new software vendor?
  • How would you prioritize your workload between day to day tasks and longer-term projects?
Behavioral Interview Questions: ​
  • Tell me about a time when you solved a complex customer problem.
  • Tell me about a time when you managed a team and had to make a big decision.
  • Tell me about a time when work was hectic and how you prioritized your workload.

Finding Your Stories

When answering behavioral interview questions, you will tell a story. It's valuable to think about your previous jobs and be ready to mine that experience for stories to explain key points to your interviewers. Your goal should be to give a 1-3 minute answer that showcases your skills in ways that address the question. 

The tendency is for people to either not know what to say or to ramble and hope they stumble upon something useful. For the next little part of this article, we'll explore different strategies you could use to answer the following question:

Tell me about a time when you had to finish a project with a short turnaround time. ​

The Non-Plan: Start Talking and Hope For The Best 

Here goes nothing:
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Gosh. I've done a lot of projects where I had to get something done quickly. Those have included software implementations, making a video, and even designing or updating a class with little to no notice. I usually just work really hard and put in extra hours to get something done.

So, one case I can think of was right when the pandemic started in 2020. I worked for a software company that delivered most of its training in person at customer sites. Since government guidelines for dealing with COVID were changing daily during the early part of the pandemic, over the course of a couple of days--maybe it was like two weeks. I can't quite remember.

Anyway, we realized that we would not be able to travel to customer sites to deliver their training like we had always done. We had to figure out how to deliver what was usually a week or so of in-person training without traveling to a customer site. We really didn't know how we were going to pull that off--and we were really worried that we were going to totally screw it up. I mean, who even knew what was going on early pandemic? What a mess that whole thing was. 

So anyway, we had to figure out how to do that well--and we had to figure it out in literally days. I had the trainer cancel their travel plans. Then, a few of us--including a salesperson, a trainer, and an instructional designer--sat down and tried to figure out what to do. We didn't want to bore people to death or make it an awful experience. We thought about doing videos, but those take a lot of time to create and produce. We also had to figure out a short-term plan for the next week and figure out a more interim plan after that. It was really hard to figure out. I mean--the whole WORLD had changed! 

[Note: we're still on the stage setting part of this and not even on to the question answer. So. Much. Talking.]

PAR: Problem/Project, Action, Results

Having a plan for your answers will make the whole interviewing process better.

PAR is one method you can use to structure your answer. Here are key components and what each letter represents:
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  • Project or Problem: Set the scene for the story you are telling and the problem you were trying to solve. What company did you work for? What was their focus? What was the problem? Why did the problem matter? 
  • Action: Describe what you did. What did you think about first? What actions did you take? What specifically did you do? Why did you choose that course of action over others? Who did what?
  • Results: Explain the end result. What tangibly happened? Was the customer happier? Did a problem go away? What were the short term impacts? How did this work out in the long run? What did you gain? Did you avert a loss?

A PAR Answer

Project/Problem: 

In March of 2020, when COVID was declared a pandemic, I worked at XYZ Software Company, and my team trained new users right after their software went live for each customer. Because we did new user training in person at each customer's site, and travel restrictions were going into place, we had to figure out what to do instead--and we only had a few days to figure something out.

Action:

I talked with my manager about how to deliver this training the following week to ABC Company. We thought through options and decided to use a combination of Zoom meetings and hands-on practice. I repurposed some of our materials to be self-paced activities, and my manager and I talked with the customer about our plans. We agreed to do a 90-minute instructor-led session in the morning and another one in the afternoon each day that week. Learners would also do self-paced activities, and the instructor would be available to answer questions as needed. 

Result:
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This resulted in us delivering the training during the planned week using the time already scheduled, but in a different way. In the end, the customer was happy that we were still on schedule, and end users appreciated the combination of instructor-led training and self-directed time.

CARL: Context, Action, Results, Learning

CARL is another method you can use to structure your answers. Here are key components and what each letter represents:
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  • Context: Set the scene for the story you are telling and the problem you were trying to solve. What company did you work for? What was their focus? What was the problem? Why did the problem matter? 
  • Action: Describe what you did. What did you think about first? What actions did you take? What specifically did you do? Why did you choose that course of action over others? Who did what?
  • Results: Explain the end result. What tangibly happened? Was the customer happier? Did a problem go away? What were the short-term impacts? How did this work out in the long run? What did you gain? Did you avert a loss?
  • Learning: What did you learn? Did you continue to do this? Did you come up with another better option later? Did you learn something about yourself?

A CARL Answer

Context:

In March of 2020, when COVID was declared a pandemic, I worked at XYZ Software Company and my team trained new users right after their software went live for each customer. Because we did new user training in-person at each customer's site, and travel restrictions were going into place, we had to figure out what to do instead--and we only had a few days to plan.


​Action:

I talked with my manager about how to deliver this training the following week to ABC Company. We thought through options and decided to use a combination of Zoom meetings and hands-on practice. I repurposed some of our materials to be self-paced activities, and my manager and I talked with the customer about our plans. We agreed to do a 90-minute instructor-led session in the morning, and another one in the afternoon each day that week. Learners would also do self-paced activities, and I would be available to answer questions as needed. 

Result:

This resulted in us delivering the training during the planned week using the time already scheduled, but in a different way. In the end, the customer was happy that we were still on schedule, and end users appreciated the combination of instructor-led training and self-directed time. 

Learning:
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Through this process, we learned more about how we could deliver effective learning at a distance. We also found that encouraging learners to turn their cameras on during training helped build a sense of community among class members. We built upon our lessons learned to improve our training with each customer.

Additional Question Answering Models

In addition to PAR and CARL, here are two more question answering models. 
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  • CAR: Context, Action, Results: This method is similar to content in PAR. Both CAR and PAR do not include what you learned during the process.
  • ​STAR: Situation, Task, Action, Results: STAR breaks apart the Situation and the Task, and still covers the Actions taken, then Results. 

In the end, it doesn't matter as much which one you choose, just that you structure your answers to minimize rambling. 

Learn More

  • 25 Behavioural Interview Questions (With Example Answers)
  • LinkedIn's Guide to Screening Candidates: 30 Essential Behavioral Interviewing Questions
  • The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide​​
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The Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"

11/11/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

Layoffs Happen All The Time

It starts like any other day. Then, it takes an ominous turn. 
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Whether you were invited to an ambiguously titled last minute meeting, received an awkward message in your personal email notifying you of your last day, or are perp walked to HR on your first day back from vacation, you are now among the newly unemployed. 

​Welcome to the suck.
New Layoffs White Box
Layoffs happen all the time.

Now What Do I Do?

Even if there were buyout rumors, a quarter with low sales, or a new company direction, being part of a reduction in force (RIF) is still surreal when it happens to you. It's hard to know what to do with yourself when you find yourself unexpectedly out of the job. It's time to redirect your attention.

Your New Focus Areas

The work problems you had an hour ago are gone. Along with your freed-up future come very different challenges. It’s time to shift to these top three focus areas:
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  • Working through your initial feelings. 
  • Assessing your current financial state.
  • Considering future employment options. 

Your Guiding Principle

Along with your new focus areas, your overall guiding principle is not to do anything counterproductive (or downright dumb) as you figure out your post-layoff next steps.

Your Never-Do List

Here are the career-limiting moves that will make your life harder. Instead of springing into action, stop, think, and then just don't do the following:

  • Talk trash about your former employer or layoff publicly.
  • Spew your unfiltered anger, sadness, fear, or hurt all over the interwebs.
  • Post on social media about how desperate you are for paid work.
  • Apply for all the jobs motivated solely by panic.
  • Take any old job.

Your Think-Before-You-Consider-Doing List 

Here are a few things you may want to do at some point, but that require thought and a plan before you move forward. At the very least, sleep on it before you do any of the following:

  • Contact recruiters, hiring managers, or colleagues about job openings before thinking about what you really want to do next.
  • Make big life decisions with long-term consequences (like a cross-country move, selling your house, or getting rid of your car).
  • Act on anyone else's advice without thinking about what is right for you (including a cross-country move, selling your house, or getting rid of your car).

Now that you are at least somewhat inoculated against creating utter chaos for yourself, let's get back to those top three focus areas. 
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My white box from layoff #4.

Focus Area 1: Process Your Emotions

Losing your job can be an emotional roller coaster. An unplanned job change is a stressful life event on par with getting divorced or going to prison. ​Just like dealing with a death in the family, you’re dealing with the death of the future you thought you had. Losing that imagined future is a significant loss that needs to be addressed.
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Figure out how you will cope with these changes. While distracting yourself from the unpleasant parts of the process is natural, building healthier coping mechanisms, like prioritizing self-care, is better for your long-term success.  

While you can get away with avoiding your feelings for a while, eventually, you need to acknowledge each one so you can move on. If you don’t work through those difficult emotions, your ignored feelings will come out sideways at just the wrong time. It is better to work through your grief privately than to fall apart during an interview or snap at someone who is trying to help you.

Step 2: Review Your Finances


Disclaimer: 

While I know quite a bit based on my previous work experience supporting financial coaches, my own research, and my personal life experiences, I do not currently hold a license or certification to give financial advice. Therefore, the information provided here is educational information provided as guidance.

I hope you can glean value from my lessons learned. Feel free to take my recommendations or not—but whatever you do, double-check my information (and everyone's facts, for that matter). This is your life, and you will care more about your finances and health care than anyone else. With that, read on. 

Possible Money From Your Former Employer

Although your paychecks will eventually stop, you will receive your final paycheck, possibly vacation time that you have earned and, hopefully, a lovely parting gift from your former employer in the form of a severance package. Severance could be equivalent to a set number of weeks of pay or include an additional lump sum, continuation of some benefits, and job placement services. In most cases, employers do not have to give you any type of severance.

If you are eligible for a severance package, you will need to sign something before receiving that money. Once you sign, any thoughts you might have about legal action regarding your employment with the organization are pretty much over. Read the agreement given to you, consider having a lawyer look it over, and ask for clarifications (and any revisions) before signing it. After that, there is typically a waiting period before you receive that money. I also encourage you not just to sign whatever paper they put in front of you. Make sure you advocate for yourself. 

Unemployment Income

After a layoff, most people will be eligible for unemployment insurance income, or UI. I encourage you to apply for unemployment payments. The money used to make unemployment payments comes from the payroll taxes that employers pay. That money is intended to help people who have been laid off to pay their bills as they search for something new.

Unemployment payments are administered at the state level and vary by state. After you apply, there may be a waiting period before you receive a payment. Your state will also outline the amount of each payment you will receive, the number of payments you are eligible to receive, and additional factors impacting your payments. You may also qualify for job search support services and even programs to help you upgrade your skills. 
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In short, apply for unemployment income right away. In most cases, there is not a good reason for most people to forgo unemployment payments. 

A Note About Health Insurance

​Since many people rely on their employers for health insurance coverage, consider how you’ll cover healthcare costs. If you have a  spouse, domestic partner, or parent who can bring you onto their health insurance, that may be your best option. Check with the other person’s employer and let them know you no longer have health insurance through your employer because of a layoff. Their employer can talk you through your next steps and cost changes.  

If that's not an option, consider COBRA coverage through your former employer. This means you could stay with your previous health insurance, but now you'd pay the whole premium cost. Brace yourself when you see your new premium amount because it is usually A LOT more than you spent as an employee.

Another option is going on the insurance exchanges at Healthcare.gov to find coverage. You may even be eligible for a subsidy to offset the cost. Alternatively, for less expensive coverage intended to cover a big expensive medical issue should it happen, short-term health care insurance may be a good interim option. Do your research and determine what makes the most sense for you and your household.

Step 3: Prepare For Your Job Search

Next, plan to launch your search for a new job. Start by thinking about what kind of job you want. Write down job titles, possible employers, and your target salary range. Update your resume to include details about your last position and showcase your unique skillset as it aligns with your target job.

From here, start letting people know your new status of being “in transition” and ask for help. They might be able to introduce you to a valuable business contact, keep an eye out for job openings that meet your needs, and introduce you to a hiring manager looking for someone just like you.

It Will All Work Out. It May Also Take A While. 

All told, I’ve had seven workdays that started with lots of obligations then quickly evaporated into unemployment. The good news is that it will all work out. The bad news is that there is a lot of uncertainty between your last day of work and your first day of your fancy new job when it does arrive. Using these tips will set you right as you begin your career transition. 

Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide

If you've recently been laid off, check out my book Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide. You can even buy the eBook to get help right now.
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In this book, I cover seven lessons from my seven experiences with unplanned job losses. I include my personal stories alongside practical advice for navigating this tumultuous time. 
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You'll learn strategies for managing your mindset, finding the next right job for you, shaping your career story, and overcoming setbacks.
Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide by Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

Learn More

  • ​Unemployment Benefits (and How To Apply) by US State
  • Healthcare.gov: Health Insurance Options if You Are Unemployed
  • ​The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide
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Work Samples and Portfolios: Your Why and Your Goals

11/4/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

Thinking Through Your Why

When creating an online portfolio, identifying what you are trying to accomplish is a great place to start. Depending on your wants, needs, industry, and timeline for completion, your portfolio could take any number of forms.  Thinking it through now will help you to create a portfolio that meets your short and longer-term goals. 

Identifying Your Portfolio Goals

Here are a few questions to ask yourself as you determine your portfolio goals:

  • What is your main purpose for having a portfolio? Do you need work samples to show hiring managers? Are you interested in sharing examples of websites you've built to entice potential clients to want to work with you? Is it just because someone told me I should have one? Figure out your why, then plan accordingly. 

  • Who is your primary audience? Who specifically are you creating this for? Answers may include recruiters, hiring managers, potential employers, or people who may be looking for a freelancer.

  • Who are your additional audiences? Who else might you want to access your portfolio? Perhaps the main goal is to share this with hiring managers, but a secondary goal is to share it with a colleague looking for ideas.

  • What would you like your primary audience to learn about you from your portfolio? Is your goal to show your wide range of skills? Are you trying to do a deeper dive into your whole work process by sharing details on one comprehensive project? Do you want to show how you've used project management principles by highlighting projects in three very different industries? Choose your focus, then create accordingly.

  • How much context or positioning does each work sample need? Can your primary audience just look at a work sample and garner what they need? If not, what context is needed, and how can you provide that?

  • How and when do you want to share your work samples? Do you want them readily available? Does a potential employer ask you to include a link when you apply? Can you share work samples as needed? Would you prefer a URL that not just anyone can access?
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  • How fancy does it need to be? This will help you decide what technology to use, your budget, and your minimum viable product (MVP). 
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  • What is your level of commitment?​ Consciously decide how much time, energy, brainpower, and money you are willing to dedicate right away and on an ongoing basis to creating your portfolio. 

My Portfolio Lessons Learned

A few years ago, when applying for jobs, I realized I needed an online portfolio to show hiring managers supporting evidence that I could use the learning and development skills included in my resume. I looked at job descriptions for training leadership roles that interested me and noted the specific keywords and skills that were most often included.

From there, I chose work samples to showcase those identified skills. For each sample, I included a brief introduction to position the value of each artifact. I shared a project plan, a pitch deck promoting a company-wide change, a facilitator guide, and microlearning videos on technical, soft skills, and business-related topics. 

​From a technology standpoint, my portfolio was a hidden page on my existing website. That portfolio page was non-searchable and not listed in website navigation, but it was available directly through the page's web address. As needed, I could include that URL on my resume, email it to hiring managers, or include it in an online job application. 

What Do You Think? 

What are your goals for your portfolio? What kind of content do you think it makes sense for you to include? As you are comfortable, share your ideas in the comments. 

Learn More

  • The Layoff Lady: Work Samples and Portfolios: Getting Started
  • The Layoff Lady: Job Search Challenges - Job-Specific Assessments & Projects
  • ​The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide​
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Your Evolving Job Requirements

10/28/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

What You Want 

In a previous article, we discussed the value of knowing what you want, what you don’t want, and what would be okay. As your job search continues, you may adjust what you want as your job search progresses.

Main Factors To Consider

When you put together your target job, it is just that: your target. As you compare your target to the job market, you will continually update your job priorities. Know that one factor that may influence the type of job you take will be your time in the job market. 

Your Acceptable Job May Change Over Time

​Here is how your job wants and needs may change over time:

  • In months 1-2 of your job search, you may be stringent about the characteristics of the job you will accept. You may be set on getting your dream title, at your dream salary, with your dream benefits, and working 100% remote.

  • In months 3-4 of your job search, you may ease your requirements based on the responses you’ve been getting from employers. At that point, you may be open to a really good title, or even an okay title, okay benefits, and even an okay or acceptable salary. However, 100% remote may be non-negotiable for you.

  • During months 4-6, when you know the end date for your unemployment payments is drawing near, you may stumble across a job with a more junior title but with a really good salary really good benefits that is hybrid with only occasional onsite work needed. This might be the right combination for you.

  • After 6 months, you may be in a position where you need to start earning income since your unemployment payments are over. Now, you may be most concerned about a really good salary, be okay with no benefits (because maybe you’re on another household member’s plan), and take a 100% remote contract gig with a solid hourly wage. 

You Can Also Stay the Course

Conversely, you may be committed to find a job that very closely aligns with your target job. The good news is that you get to decide what role is right for you, and what will make you happy longer term. The bad news is that it may take you longer if you have very specific requirements and less flexibility. In this case, make sure that you think through options for interim income so you are able to support yourself as you find a role that meets your requirements. 

Learn More

  • The Layoff Lady: Career Planning - Figuring Out What You Want To Be Next
  • The Layoff Lady: Managing Your Money - Layoff Survival Budget Sources of Income​
  • ​The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide
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Gathering Work and Education History: Your Backstory

10/21/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

The Value of Information Gathering

If a career opportunity comes your way, it is to your advantage to be ready to pursue that job. Doing a little extra information gathering ahead of time will help you fill out a detailed job application, include a particularly relevant class, or remind one of your references of when you worked. Since time may be of the essence when applying, this will help you meet that tight deadline with fewer headaches.

Gathering this information, which is really your career backstory, will help you to tell the story of your professional life consistently. 

Your Work History

When filling out job applications, having a thorough list of where you worked and basic information about each job can come in handy. Depending on the application, you may be able to submit a resume alone and be done with it. Other companies may ask you for specific start and end dates for each role. They may even ask for contact information for your immediate manager and the organization itself. 
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To make filling out more thorough job applications a little easier, I suggest you create a spreadsheet including information for your previous workplaces for the past 10-15 years. Depending on what stage you are at in your career, decide how many years of work experience it makes sense for you to gather.

Make sure to compile this information for each role:
  • Company name.
  • Company city and state.
  • Job title.
  • Start date.
  • End date.
  • Direct manager name.
  • Reason for leaving.
  • Your starting and ending salaries (for your information only).

While you’re busy gathering information, you may want to note these items, too:
  • Company phone number.
  • Company street address.
  • Additional company details: revenue numbers, employee count, and ownership structure.

Your Education History

Employers like to have assurances that a given candidate really has the knowledge, skills, and abilities they claim to have. This is why it’s helpful to list the classes you’ve taken, groups you’ve joined,  certification tests you’ve passed, and degrees you’ve completed. Having this type of external validation for your skill set adds to your credibility.

To customize your resume and make filling out a detailed job application easier, I suggest you create a spreadsheet to list the formalized ways you continue learning and growing. 

I list my college degrees, Association of Talent Development (ATD) membership, a business analysis class I took, a vendor-specific train-the-trainer course I attended, and a few technical certifications.

 Here are the core details to gather on each line item:
  • Company/school.
  • Course or certification date.
  • Graduation/completion date.
  • Membership start and end dates (if applicable).
  • Expiration date (if applicable).
  • Notes.

Keep in mind that this list is intended to accommodate everything from a 1-hour seminar you took once upon a time on sales prospecting all the way to an advanced degree. You may want to make separate lists for different activity types. Use the format that works best for you. 

Learn More

  • The Layoff Lady: Managing Your Professional References
  • The Layoff Lady: Customizing Your Resume for Each Job Application 
  • ​The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide
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Talking To All The People About Your Layoff

10/14/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

Managing Curious and Well-Intentioned People

​One of the hardest things about being laid off is telling other people about it--specifically fielding their uninvited questions. I'm not talking about work people or your professional network, either. I'm talking about the family friend you run into at the grocery store, that parent you went to a PTA meeting with once, seldom-seen relatives at a holiday gathering, and the neighbor you pass by only occaisionally. Worse yet, it is interacting with a group of well-intentioned people who express their curiosity, worry, and opinions regarding your wellbeing. 

Here are a few suggested talking points for managing those conversations that pop up at just the wrong time.

Getting Your Patter Down

After you've chatted with your inner circle, it’s time to think about addressing this topic with everyone else. This includes people who make random comments about your situation, those who don't really know how layoffs work, and the ones who genuinely want to help but may not have the best advice. These conversations may be rough, especially if you feel vulnerable. Your goal may be to get through the awkwardness and move on to other topics.  

To prepare, it is helpful to know how to respond. Here are a few suggestions for talking points to get you through. 

Talking About Your Current State and Plans

  • You were not fired, discarded, cut loose, or shitcanned. These words imply that you did something terrible enough to get fired or that you’re mad because something awful was done to you. 
  • You were laid off, your job ended, your position was eliminated, or you were part of a company-wide reduction in force. It is just a thing that happened, and now you don’t work at the place where you worked before.
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  • You are not unemployed, between jobs, an ex-employee of Big Important Tech Company, or a big giant loser.​​
  • You are in transition, in career transition, searching for your next great role, or looking for the job that is the right next step for you.​ 

Talking About The Job You No Longer Have

The question: I heard you’re unemployed. What happened there!

Your core message: 
My job ended. It is a thing that happened. 
  • I was part of a company-wide reduction in force at ABC Lending. My job ended on Tuesday.
  • I was part of a layoff. About 500 of us were part of the reduction in force when the company restructured. That happened earlier this week.
  • I was one of the 1000 people who had their position eliminated at XYZ company. It happened earlier this month.
  • I got laid off. It happened a bit ago.
  • My job ended recently, along with about a hundred others at the company.

Talking About What Is Next For You

The question: What are you going to do now? I would be freaking out! 
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​I’d be scared to death if I were you. Are you sure you’ll be okay?
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​A person I sort of know lost their house/was unemployed for years/had to take a pay cut/never worked again.
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Your core message: I’m going to keep on keeping on and also look for a new job.​
  • ​I’ve had some time to think about it, and I know my next steps.
  • I’ve made friends with the change, and I’m working towards my next role.
  • I am worried, but I know I’ll be okay. I have a plan.
  • It can be stressful, but I’m going to do the right things, and it will work out.
  • I’m making a plan for what to do next.

Talking About STILL Not Having a Job

The question: So--do you have a job yet? 
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Are you STILL unemployed?
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Did that thing you were interviewing for work out?
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Your core message: I am job searching and something will work out. 
  • I'm talking to a few companies, and I'm sure something will work out soon.
  • No, but I'm hopeful.
  • I’m working on my next steps.
  • Finding a job can take a while. I’m making progress toward something new. 

Acknowledging People's Reassurances

The question/comment: Don’t worry. It’ll be fine. Hang in there! You’re so talented!

​Your response: Thanks. 

Addressing Well Intentioned and/or Awful Advice

The comments:
  • You should just get a job as a bus driver/multi-level marketing scheme salesperson/sign spinner!
  • You should hold out for a better job than you’ve ever had where you get all the vacation/all the money/are the ruler of the free world!
  • You should go back to school/start your own consulting company/have a baby/adopt many cats/quit working altogether.
  • You should downsize your house/sell your car/auction your jewelry/maybe get a yurt/live in a box outside your mom’s house.

Your core message:
 I appreciate you. I will make the right decision for me.
  • Thank you for your suggestions. I’m figuring out what is right for me.
  • I definitely have options. I'm figuring out my next steps.
  • Thank you for your insights. I have a plan for what to do.

Learn More

  • ​Podcast Appearance: Unfiltered Unspoken Connecting Through Life Experiences: Finding Hope After Layoffs, Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady
  • The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide​​
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Rescinded Offers: What To Do Between Job Offer Acceptance & Your Start Date

10/7/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

You Have A Job Offer!

Finally having a job offer after your post-layoff job search is a call for celebration. Now, you can breathe a sigh of relief and start to build your new post-career transition normal. While you may want to shout from the rooftops that you've finally landed and start celebrating, I suggest you play it cool for a couple more weeks.

​In most cases, accepting a job offer will lead to you starting that job just as planned. On rare occasion, something happens and that job offer falls through. Just in case, I suggest taking a few interim steps between the time you accept your job offer and the day you start your new role.

...And Now You Don't

So what makes a job offer evaporate? Oftentimes, this happens because of a substantial change to the hiring organization. For example, I have a colleague who accepted a job offer in early March of 2020, and then gave his notice at his current role. After the pandemic hit, his job offer was rescinded due to changing business conditions. In other cases, a rescinded offer may result from a leader leaving an organization, layoffs within the company, a decision not to fill a role, or the organization choosing to hire someone else. 

In most cases, accepted job offers result in companies adding new workers to their payroll. Although it is not a common occurrence, having a job offer rescinded is a huge setback.

My Rescinded Job Offer Experience

A few months into my job search, I was overjoyed when I received an offer for a Learning and Development Manager position. The hiring process had been all over the place (not uncommon for a startup), but now it was a done deal. I breathed a sigh of relief, knowing my unemployment would end in two short weeks.

I made a "hooray I got a job--more details later" post on LinkedIn to celebrate.

A couple of days before my planned first workday, I got a call from the recruiter saying that my start date would be delayed. A few days later, I talked with the hiring manager, who told me the company was holding off on my start date until "the numbers came in" from their first quarter, and explained that this role was originally slated to start in Quarter 2. I asked her point-blank if this role was really going to happen. She assured me that it was not about if I would start, but when I would start, which would be within two months at the latest. She also committed to sharing regular updates. I left that conversation convinced that we were on track.

Two weeks after the date formerly known as my start date, I reached out to the hiring manager and recruiter for progress updates. A few days later, I received an email from the hiring manager with more assurances that I was the right person for the job and no new start date.

A week or so later, I got the call from the recruiter saying that a start date would not be coming. Ever. The company was going in a different direction—one that did not involve me. Even during this conversation, the recruiter assured me that I was still the hiring manager’s first choice—even though the role was now officially off the table. That was a hollow consolation prize.

The worst part was that I had just wasted two months of my life waiting and had no paycheck to show for it.

A New Plan

Remember, in most cases, accepting a job will lead to you starting to work for that company shortly thereafter. Although having a job offer rescinded is not a common occurance, it's helpful to think through your next steps as you navigate the time between offer acceptance and your start date.

Here are a few suggestions for your consideration:
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  • Rethink your standard operating procedure for what to do when you receive a job offer. I suggest keeping your social media accounts in job-searching mode until you start your new role. During that time, especially an extended wait, continue to talk to other companies, apply for additional positions, and interview. Then, after you work at least a day and as long as a week at your new job, update your LinkedIn and announce your new role.  ​
  • When accepting a job, consider your next steps if the offer falls through. The act of thinking through that possibility will help ease your anxiety.  
  • When the conditions of the job offer change, reassess. When changes to your start date or any aspect of the job offer become apparent, evaluate that information alongside other data you have about the role and projected start date. Make your decisions accordingly.  
  • If your job offer is rescinded, take time to feel your feelings before moving forward. If you don’t take a moment and process your emotions, they will come out sideways at just the wrong time. Take time for self-care.​ ​
  • Plot, scheme, and relaunch your search. If you find yourself in a position where you have announced your new role and the offer is rescinded, formally restart your job search. Begin with a new LinkedIn announcement stating that the position you previously accepted is no longer in play and ask for assistance finding a new role. Then, start doing those right things again.

Learn More

  • The Layoff Lady: Job Search Insights By The Numbers After Layoff #7
  • The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide​
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Career Resilience: An Alternative to Worrying About a Layoff

9/30/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

Managing Job Anxiety

Recently, I was at a professional development event where we shared best practices for delivering effective virtual training sessions. During networking time, I talked with a woman who had been laid off, and then called back to work for the same company (which is rare for someone working in the field of learning and development). While she was glad to be employed again, she was having a hard time being happy in her new/old position without constantly worrying about her job unexpectedly ending again. 

To Worry, or Not To Worry?

When you've been laid off before, or just seen people around you lose their jobs, it's hard not to worry about it happening to you. Whenever you read about layoffs in the news, hear that your company's sales numbers were lower than expected, or hear rumors about a company merger, your mind might jump to conclusions. Instead of letting a wave of panic run through you each time your boss invites you to meet one-on-one, there is an alternative: changing your overall mindset. 

My Old Operating Modes: Either/Or

Earlier in my career, I had two operating modes when it came to work: “I’m happy with my job” and “I need to find a new job right this minute.” 

When I was happy with my job, I did excellent work at my day job and didn't worry much about the future beyond that role. I would learn new skills for the job, but I didn't always think about my overall career trajectory. 

Conversely, when I knew I needed to launch a job search, I shifted away from the work I was doing and started focusing solely on taking my next steps outside of my current role and organization. Only then did I shift to developing skills applicable to another workplace, meeting more people to help me get a new job, and planning to exit the organization.

My New Mindset: Both/And

I finally realized I didn't have to pick between these two operating modes. Instead, I needed to shift my overall way of thinking and adopt the both/and mindset that was also more long-term and sustainable.

I started focusing on myself as a working professional and what I needed to do to succeed personally, regardless of who my specific employer was. This included focusing on my ongoing learning and development, building my professional network, and planning for contingencies. This built up my career resilience, which helped me feel more confident that I would thrive regardless of my current work situation. 

Learning and Development

When people think of learning, they often focus on formal degrees, certifications, and completion certificates from instructor-led classes. While these are valuable, and often a great foundation, ongoing learning can take many forms. Whether you attend a webinar, watch a TedTalk, read an article online, or listen to podcasts on your area of interest, you are continuing your professional development. 

Staying current with industry trends and continuing to learn and grow helps me perform well in my current role while also allowing me to be future ready. In an ever-changing world, continued professional growth is the best way to manage whatever happens next.

Building My Professional Network

Too often, networking is depicted as a superficial act that involves making initial connections with people, then dreading the next day’s “Would you like to buy something from me” calls. I approach networking differently. My goal is to build mutually beneficial relationships with people. Interacting with these connections provides opportunities to share information, learn from one another, and help one another out along the way. 

I use LinkedIn to track my professional network. I connect with people I've met before and with whom I share something in common. My LinkedIn network includes former coworkers, individuals I've sat next to at in-person events, people I've attended an online event with, and professionals working in the same field as me. 

​Contingency Planning

Regardless of my role, and even if it seems to be going well, I always have a backup plan, a backup backup plan, and then a couple more backup plans after those.

After weathering many layoffs and the unique challenges of each, I have a broad sense of the situations I may need to mitigate. Those include an unexpected job loss, choosing an interim health care option, and how to launch a post-layoff job search. 

Here are a few steps I have taken to help prepare for possible situations:

  • Identified the people I'll contact when launching a job search. 
  • Found a  few companies to contact for contract work. 
  • Outlined my short and longer term layoff budget.
  • Created supplemental income options beyond a full-time job.

What Do You Think?

How do you help yourself not worry about being laid off? Share your thoughts in the comments. 

Learn More

  • The Layoff Lady: Indicators Your Company Might Do a Reduction in Force (RIF)
  • The Layoff Lady: Career Resilience Contingency Planning: Opportunity Readiness
  • The Layoff Lady: Your New Role: The CEO of You
  • ​The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide​
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Career Transition Time Management Strategies

9/23/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

You Can't Do It All

During your job search, there are always a ton of things you could be doing. Unfortunately, there is not enough time to do everything you could possibly do. Therefore, it’s crucial to manage your time. This helps make sure you are doing the highest value activities that will get you closer to your goal of landing a new job. Let's look at a few helpful strategies.

Saying No

One of the best time management strategies is the simple act of saying no. When you’re in between paid gigs, people may go out of their way to find ways to occupy “all that free time” you have. Being raised to be a nice, pleasant human being, I have a long history of saying yes to things I shouldn’t have. While saying no can be difficult, in your role as the CEO of You, it’s your job to prioritize your time wisely to help you achieve your goals.
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You might want to say no to doing extra volunteer work for your child’s school, church, or favorite charitable cause. You might want to skip helping someone landscape their yard, paint their house, or move. You might want to refrain from attending an additional school play, driving an extra carpool shift, or chaperoning one more event. In short, you get to spend your time in whatever activities bring you joy and/or get you closer to finding a new job. Ensure you align your time with your goals and do not take on additional tasks out of a sense of guilt, obligation, or good old-fashion task avoidance. Remember, no is a complete sentence.

Creating Your Schedule

One benefit of working for someone else (aside from, you know, the whole getting paid thing) is that it gives your life structure. When you’re in career transition, making yourself some kind of schedule is valuable. It doesn’t have to be rigid or rigorous. Having more structure is helpful when you’re struggling. Systems help because they give you some idea of what to do with yourself if and when your plans change. Even if you don’t follow your schedule to the letter, having a plan for your time can help address your need for order and give you a sense of accomplishment. 

Blocking Off Time

If I have a blank calendar, I have difficulty accomplishing anything because I have too little structure. Conversely, if I overschedule myself, I will be frustrated because it feels ridig. Blocking off time for dedicated activities is how I balance the two extremes.

During these time blocks, which are usually 1-2 hours long (for me), I focus on the task at hand. For example, when I'm in career transition, I might search for new open positions, customize my resume for a certain role, or write a few thank you messages. Making an appointment with myself helps me get things done.
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I also block out time for fun activities. Whether when the roller skating rink is open, when my coffee group is meeting, or an hour to walk on a nice day, blocking off time helps me prioritize valuable activities that bring me joy.

Batching Work

I also find that there are similar tasks I need to do regularly that go well together. Work batching helps me increase my efficiency and accomplish more. Here are a few examples of the kind of work I batch when I'm in career transition:

  • Searching for open positions: I spend a half hour looking for jobs and bookmarking those that meet my basic requirements. If I’m not sure about a role, I’ll bookmark it for now and revisit it alongside similar positions later.
  • Prioritizing applications: Later, I'll spend a half hour reviewing my bookmarked jobs. At that time, I read them more closely, eliminate the less desirable ones, and select which higher-value job applications I will submit.
  • Applying for jobs: With my now prioritized list, I start with my basic resume, review the job description, personalize the professional summary and skills sections of my resume, then apply. I then update my status on my spreadsheet. I repeat this for the other jobs I will apply for in a given week.

​Grouping tasks tends to improve efficiency and boost productivity. 

Setting a Timer

Most people’s productivity decreases the longer they work on the same task. One way to use your time more consciously is by using a timer. For example, I set a timer for 50 minutes, then take a 10-minute break. This way, I have a set time to focus, but I also know it won’t last forever. In addition, if I’m spinning on a task and not accomplishing anything, taking that 10-minute break usually gets me out of that thought trap.
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During my break, I switch gears. I stand up, stretch, or take a few deep breaths. Sometimes, I’ll even do a quick beta task, like folding towels, before returning to my alpha work. When my timer goes off and my break ends, I begin again. Breaks can work wonders to stop you from spiraling by helping you re-engage with a given task. 

Learn More

  • The Layoff Lady: My Top 3 Indespensible Job Search Tools
  • The Layoff Lady: Customizing Your Resume For Each Job Application
  • The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide​
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Job Search Insights By The Numbers After Layoff #7

9/16/2025

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By Brenda L. Peterson, The Layoff Lady

An Eventful Job Search

After nine months of career transition and a few unexpected twists and turns, my seventh post-layoff job search ended successfully in gainful employment. 

Take a look at my lessons learned this time around. 

New Challenges

  • ​​The prevalence of remote work added a few new challenges and opportunities, to the job search process. For one, removing many geographic restrictions meant more available jobs. For another, more people applying for jobs nationwide means significantly more applicants (and more competition) for those available roles. 
  • For the first time in my career, I accepted an offer and later had the employer rescind that job offer.
  • I actually had two job searches. The search before I accepted job offer #1, then the period of me waiting for the job to start, followed by my re-launched job search and accepting job offer #2. It was like being laid off twice without ever even managing to start one of the jobs. 

My Post-Layoff Transitions: Duration

​People often ask how long a career transition lasts. To give a partial answer to that question, here is my unscientific, skewed-sample-size data on how long each of my periods of post-layoff career transition have lasted.

The time listed starts with my last day of work with my previous employer (aka "Layoff Day") and ends with my first workday in a new role:

  • October 10 - April 8, 180 days (6 months)
  • February 2 - May 27, 114 days (not quite 4 months)
  • June 5 - August 14, 70 days (just over 2 months)
  • October 16 - March 12, 147 days (not quite 5 months)
  • September 22 - December 2, 71 days  (just over 2 months)
  • March 8 - April 27, 50 days (not quite 2 months)
  • September 21 - June 12, 264 days (not quite 9 months)

Overall, my average time in career transition is 128 days (just over 4 months). 
Layoff #7 was the longest one I've had so far, and 3 months longer than my previous record.

Career Transition Duration: Contributing Factors

There are a few key factors that made this period of career transition longer than after my previous layoffs:
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  • Time of year: 3 of the 4 times I have been laid off in the fall, I have not found a new role until after the holidays. In general, I find that if I have not accepted a new role before Thanksgiving, it takes me until at least March to land a job. Being unemployed over the holidays adds 1-2 months on to the total time in transition. 
  • Other layoffs: The flood of mortgage company and tech company layoffs starting in the fall of 2022 made the market very competitive with lots and lots of job seekers.
  • Initial focus on remote work only: Early in my job search, I was focusing primarily on roles with 100% remote work. I learned that many of these roles had hundreds of applications since now people from around the country, not just one localized geographic area, were applying. 

The Numbers: Job Applications and Interviews

Given that my previous employer was starting to make organizational changes, including a few rounds of "quiet layoffs," I started to keep an eye out for a new job starting in July of 2022, which I've included in this summary:

  • Total applications from July 2022 - June 2023: 159
  • Applications before layoff: 19
  • Applications after layoff and before accepting offer #1: 104
  • Number of companies who interviewed me at least once before offer #1: 16
  • Number of interviews from all companies before offer #1: 36
  • Job applications I half-heartedly submitted in between accepting offer #1 and having offer #1 rescinded: 11
  • Job applications after rescinded offer and before accepting offer #2: 25
  • Number of companies who interviewed me at least once after rescinded offer: 12
  • Number of interviews after rescinded offer: 20
  • ​Total number of interviews from all companies from July 2022 - June 2023: 56
  • ​​Most interviews with one company: 6
  • Number of final interviews: 4
  • ​Number of jobs where I was interviewing, and the position went on hold: 3
  • Number of jobs where I interviewed, then never heard from the company again: 3
  • Number of jobs where I interviewed, then found out they could not hire a Nebraska resident: 3

The Insights: More Opportunities, Fewer Interviews

One challenge during this job search is the newly added focus on work location--specifically the following labels: onsite, hybrid, and remote. Part of why I felt comfortable relocating from Minneapolis, MN to Omaha, NE in mid-2022 was the prevalence of remote work. I also realized that the definition of "remote" for companies can vary widely. As I reflect on my job search, I wonder how many positions I applied for with companies who were not interested in or able to hire someone who lives in my current state of residence. 

While there are, indeed, many remote jobs available in my chosen field of learning and development, I discovered first-hand that companies and job search sites are not necessarily aligned on what each of these words means. 


​Remote jobs mean more applications for me and way more competition:

  • With previous job searches, which were more limited by geographic area, my goal was to apply for 2 jobs a week. It was easier to prioritize roles.
  • With this job search, my goal was to apply for 3 jobs per week. Many weeks, there were easily 10 jobs from which to choose.
  • While I applied for significantly more jobs, I had a lower percentage of interviews as compared to applications.

The Numbers: Working With Recruiters

Remember, LinkedIn is your billboard to the world. Be sure to make your profile a good representation of what you bring to the table as a job candidate. Have a strong headline that includes the job title(s) that interest you and a few key skills.

​Have your professional summary in the About section, your work experiences, and at least a couple of sentences about each of your previous jobs. This is what recruiters will check after you apply. This is what may come up in a recruiter's search when they are sourcing candidates. Make this count. Here are the responses from recruiters this time around:
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  • Number of recruiters who reached out to me about roles that made sense for me: 8
  • Number of recruiters who I then talked to about the aforementioned role: 3
  • Number of recruiters who I responded to right before they fell off the face of the earth: 5

My Re-Launched Job Search

In April, when I re-launched my job search, I changed my overall approach. 

  • I was open to a wider variety of job titles and placed a heavier focus on core responsibilities. 
  • I focused on companies with a presence in Nebraska.
  • I was more open to hybrid roles. 
  • I relied more heavily on formal and informal referrals. 

At this point in my job search, I had also built stronger relationships with my colleagues in my Omaha-area professional development groups. When I first launched my job search in the fall, I had only been in the area for 2 months. Between then and April, I had met more people in person, talked with them in meetings, presented to groups, and helped a few of them solve business problems. I'm sure getting to know me better and working alongside me helped them to feel more comfortable speaking to my skillset and recommending me as my job search progressed. 

My Overall Insights

  • Building and leveraging strong professional relationships can only make your job search better.
  • Being open to roles with an in-person component may give you a competitive advantage. 
  • Keep on doing the right things consistently. Remind yourself that over time, something will work out.
  • At the end of the day, you only need one job.  

Learn More

  • The Layoff Lady: Job Search Insights By The Numbers After Layoff #4
  • The Layoff Lady: Post-Layoff Job Search Insights from Layoff #5
  • The Layoff Lady's Ultimate Guide To Answering The Question, "I Just Got Laid Off--Now What Do I Do?"​
  • The Layoff Lady Book: Seven Lessons From Seven Layoffs: A Guide
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